One night stands are much more common today than they were a decade or several decades ago. In today’s society, casual and no strings attached sex happens all the time. In fact, there are many one-night stand apps that help people find one-night stand or hookups, something that was not available more than ten years ago. An amazing night of passion with no strings attached can be a great way to spice up anyone’s single life, as long as you stick to a few dos and don’ts.
Given that there are more one night stands happening today than there were in the past, and that one night stands can sometimes not turn out the way you expect, there are some common sense dos and don’ts to remember when it comes to one night stands.
If you regularly pursue and enjoy one night stand, or if you are considering experimenting with one for the first time, keep the following tips and suggestions in mind.
- If you are interested in a one night stand – then go for it.
- Know what you want and express that to your partner so there is complete and honest communication
- Treat your partner with respect – always
- Be honest with yourself and what you want from the one night stand, share your feelings and desires with your partner
- Practice safe sex always, this is for your own protection as well as your partners
- Be enthusiastic and show that enthusiasm to your partner
- Express your sexual desires and experiment with new things – as long as your partner is willing!
- Know your sexual boundaries and stick to them
- If you are going to a new place, make sure someone knows where you will be and when
- Have fun and enjoy the time together
- Recognize when the fun is over and take your leave, or ask them to leave before things get too uncomfortable
- Remember it’s a one night stand only and expect nothing more. On the other hand …
- Be open to something more if you felt a strong connection
- Don’t be limited by preconceived notions or worried about what others may think of you
- No lying or misleading your partner, this can only lead to bad news in the future
- Be an ass, douche or dick. See the dos above.
- Go beyond what you are comfortable with
- Drink too much or overindulge with recreational drugs, the more level-headed you remain, the better decisions you will make
- Don’t limit yourself but know what you are willing to do and what you are not
- Have a one night stand unless you are ready for one
- Overstay your welcome at their place or encourage them to linger at yours, it’s a one night stand after all and it should end sooner rather than later
- Don’t leave anything behind but your excitement and enjoyment. It can be very awkward to call up the next day and ask about your panties!
- Keep an open mind and don’t take things personally.
- Don’t expect anything more than the one night stand. If you do, you are setting yourself up for extreme disappointment.
If you pursue and engage in a one night stand with the mindset that its all for fun and only for that one night, if you stay true to yourself and what you desire, and if you are honest upfront about all of this with your partner of choice, then a one night stand can be an exhilarating, exciting, and wonderful experience. If you cannot follow this, then perhaps one night stands are not for you.